Wow, it did take me a long time to get back here. I'll have to work on that.
Well, I'm here now.
I was talking to a friend this morning. He's on a dating site. He was supposed to meet a girl for coffee yesterday, but stood her up. I started getting upset, I was thinking this poor woman put herself out there and took a chance and he didn't show up. I told him it was a crap thing to do.
I wouldn't answer his phone call because I just didn't want to listen to his excuses. It was almost as if he'd stood me up.
I went and had a shower to remove myself from the situation. While I was washing the walls ( a rare event, but hey, it's gotta be done sometime!!) I realised that I put myself in other's shoes a bit too much.
I get upset easily, I get passionate easily, whether it's about the latest people smuggling or the fact that the finale of All Saints sucked big time.
This challenge is going to be hard, but it's time for me to stop trying to change the world outside of me, but to change only what I can right now, the things that are in my control.
The housework, the kids (well, they're mostly in my control... sometimes!! :-) ) Eating, exercising. these are in my control.
Global warming, people smuggling, whether my friend turns up for coffee, not in my control.
It's going to take some time for this to sink in. I'm still going to get upset about crap at times, but I've got to start somewhere.
The first thing I'm going to do is allot a day of the week to each section of the house.
Sunday, My room and ensuite
Tuesday, Girls' room
Wednesday Laundry and Kitchen
Thursday Bathroom and Toilet
Friday, Dining room
Now, I'm not saying that every other day of the week these rooms get ignored, but for that day, the focus is on that room. Even if it's for 30 minutes, it's 1/2 an hour more than it was getting and that's got to be an improvement.
Thanks to FLYlady, some things are sinking in. :-)
Til next time,